Over the weekend I told my co-workers about watching Silence of the Lambs for the first time and one 43 yo coworker kind of scoffed at my having never seen it and it reminded me how I'm going to stop questioning why people haven't seen a thing I love. It's not fair to them or to me.
This one coworker seems to vacillate between being impressed with me then being a little bit snide about the fact that I haven't seen things he's seen. Not all of it has been within my realm of interest, hence my having not seen it.
But, you know, instead of questioning the quality of someone's life for having not watched that movie, or having not seen that show, why not take pleasure in sharing it with them? I mean, I showed my friend Little Shop of Horrors and I was excited the entire time to share the movie with her. I wanted to see her reactions and I just plain had fun. I might have asked why she hadn't seen it, I hope I didn't.
For every movie, book, comic, TV show, whatever I haven't experienced that someone else has, I've probably experienced an equal number of different movies, books, comics, TV shows and a whole other whatever. I'm trying to be less dismissal of what other people like when they talk about a show or something I don't care about. I mean, I love love love Kiss Kiss Bang Bang, I love sharing it with people. A lot of people have told me they've heard of it but never seen it, or never seen it all the way through and I just want to be there to show them the entire thing.
I'd rather rake joy in someone else experiencing something I love for the first time than harshly criticize why thy haven't experienced something. There's a lot of media out there and it's hard enough to experience and enjoy things without someone judging whether or not you've seen it then judging your opinion after. I'm trying hard not to ask why, I'm sure I'll keep failing, but I'm going to try to start asking "would you like to..." and then share the book, movie, tv show whatever if I have it to share.